Wow, it's been a while since I have posted on here. Should I say that there are forces preventing me from doing that? (some will understand that question, others may not but regardless I couldn't help myself).
So much has happened since my last post. The monster was bound over to district court and later arraigned in district court. He entered a plea of Not Guilty and the judge set dates for several hearings, status meetings, pre-trial conference and the trial. The Prosecutor's Assistant told us not set our sights too heavily on that trial date though as it would probably change. And it did. The original date was January 7, 2014. Last week that was changed to March 31st. Hopefully that will be the only delay but we know this is a game of chess and that other moves could cause more delays.
We are learning so much about the justice system in criminal cases and are so thankful for the Prosecutor and the Assistant that has been assigned to our case. They are always there to listen, to answer our questions or just listen to us vent.
As I said in the beginning of this blog, I can't go into a lot of details of the case but I like to at least update on what I can.
Erin and I are both so thankful for the friends and supporters that our family has during all of this. Some people want to be in our lives so they can feel important, feel like they are "part" of this ordeal...it blows my mind how some people can be like that ... this is not something I would ever want to be a part of, I guess they are just looking to feel important. The real friends, the ones that have been there before and are still hear to listen to us cry, to listen to our pain, to laugh with us when we laugh and that know, regardless what we are going through that we still want to know about them, to share in their joys and their pains. Without these people I don't know how I could get through every day.
To my family (my kids, my daughters-in-law, my sister and brother-in-law, my cousins) - Thank You for being who you are, for talking, for helping, for listening, for hugging, for being you. For my daughter-in-law's parents - Kim and Tim - Thank You for your love and support, for feeding us and giving us a place of refuge during long court days. For Joey's Grandma Kim and Aunt Jordan - Thank You for being there - even though you're both many miles away you are always by my side. To some very incredible friends - Michele, Janet, Jill, Lisa CC and June- I truly could not get through every day without you all.
I sit here today thinking about the upcoming status hearing on Monday and some potential outcomes of that hearing. I think about how much our lives have changed and how much more we have to endure.
Recently Erin had posted something about a friend that was feeling pretty crappy about their life and I wrote the following comment to it. I think it is worth sharing here as well.
To whom it may concern...hating your life only brings you and others around you down into the depths of depression...life is what it is and you have to take the steps to make it better. I could tell you countless tales of things that have happened in my life but that's my life not yours. What I can tell you are these few things:
1) a great man (my father) told me many years ago...If you can't laugh through whatever comes in your life you will never survive..we can find something to laugh about every day if we just take the time to do it.
2) you and only you can change things in your life..happiness is not found "in" someone else..happiness is "WITHIN" yourself. 3) make a list..what's good and what's "bad" about my life...I bet the good out weighs the bad. Make a list of steps to take to change the bad into good. Some changes simply start with attitude, others will take a while...that's where goals come in. Set realistic goals...today..tomorrow...in a week..in a moth...in a year...and check them off as you meet them. Sometimes goals or steps change but that's OK because we change and life changes.
4) drop the baggage from the past, it only slows you down.
5) love yourself. 6)do one thing everyday to make another person smile...it's not hard...hold a door for someone, say "Have a great day!" to a cashier and mean it, simple things bring smiles...giving smiles to others makes you feel better inside. So...Have a GREAT DAY my dear people...Love, Mom
We made it through another month, we have a long way to go, but in the end Justice will win and we can share "the rest of the story".
Love one another, cherish every day with your little ones. Hug one another. Hugs are the most incredible thing in the world. To feel the comfort of a friend or loved one's arms giving that little (or sometimes big) squeeze touches deep into one's soul and reminds the person, no matter what, they are loved.
Onward and forward...we wait for Monday and what next week will bring...but in the meantime I'll go play with my son and grandson and smile at the wonder of them both.
Grandma Kathy
So much has happened since my last post. The monster was bound over to district court and later arraigned in district court. He entered a plea of Not Guilty and the judge set dates for several hearings, status meetings, pre-trial conference and the trial. The Prosecutor's Assistant told us not set our sights too heavily on that trial date though as it would probably change. And it did. The original date was January 7, 2014. Last week that was changed to March 31st. Hopefully that will be the only delay but we know this is a game of chess and that other moves could cause more delays.
We are learning so much about the justice system in criminal cases and are so thankful for the Prosecutor and the Assistant that has been assigned to our case. They are always there to listen, to answer our questions or just listen to us vent.
As I said in the beginning of this blog, I can't go into a lot of details of the case but I like to at least update on what I can.
Erin and I are both so thankful for the friends and supporters that our family has during all of this. Some people want to be in our lives so they can feel important, feel like they are "part" of this ordeal...it blows my mind how some people can be like that ... this is not something I would ever want to be a part of, I guess they are just looking to feel important. The real friends, the ones that have been there before and are still hear to listen to us cry, to listen to our pain, to laugh with us when we laugh and that know, regardless what we are going through that we still want to know about them, to share in their joys and their pains. Without these people I don't know how I could get through every day.
To my family (my kids, my daughters-in-law, my sister and brother-in-law, my cousins) - Thank You for being who you are, for talking, for helping, for listening, for hugging, for being you. For my daughter-in-law's parents - Kim and Tim - Thank You for your love and support, for feeding us and giving us a place of refuge during long court days. For Joey's Grandma Kim and Aunt Jordan - Thank You for being there - even though you're both many miles away you are always by my side. To some very incredible friends - Michele, Janet, Jill, Lisa CC and June- I truly could not get through every day without you all.
I sit here today thinking about the upcoming status hearing on Monday and some potential outcomes of that hearing. I think about how much our lives have changed and how much more we have to endure.
Recently Erin had posted something about a friend that was feeling pretty crappy about their life and I wrote the following comment to it. I think it is worth sharing here as well.
To whom it may concern...hating your life only brings you and others around you down into the depths of depression...life is what it is and you have to take the steps to make it better. I could tell you countless tales of things that have happened in my life but that's my life not yours. What I can tell you are these few things:
1) a great man (my father) told me many years ago...If you can't laugh through whatever comes in your life you will never survive..we can find something to laugh about every day if we just take the time to do it.
2) you and only you can change things in your life..happiness is not found "in" someone else..happiness is "WITHIN" yourself. 3) make a list..what's good and what's "bad" about my life...I bet the good out weighs the bad. Make a list of steps to take to change the bad into good. Some changes simply start with attitude, others will take a while...that's where goals come in. Set realistic goals...today..tomorrow...in a week..in a moth...in a year...and check them off as you meet them. Sometimes goals or steps change but that's OK because we change and life changes.
4) drop the baggage from the past, it only slows you down.
5) love yourself. 6)do one thing everyday to make another person smile...it's not hard...hold a door for someone, say "Have a great day!" to a cashier and mean it, simple things bring smiles...giving smiles to others makes you feel better inside. So...Have a GREAT DAY my dear people...Love, Mom
We made it through another month, we have a long way to go, but in the end Justice will win and we can share "the rest of the story".
Love one another, cherish every day with your little ones. Hug one another. Hugs are the most incredible thing in the world. To feel the comfort of a friend or loved one's arms giving that little (or sometimes big) squeeze touches deep into one's soul and reminds the person, no matter what, they are loved.
Onward and forward...we wait for Monday and what next week will bring...but in the meantime I'll go play with my son and grandson and smile at the wonder of them both.
Grandma Kathy