Originally I was just going to post the following on Facebook but decided to write a post instead.
Comments have been made in the recent days/weeks to the tone of "it's been a year and a half, time to move on" and other things. SERIOUSLY???
So does this mean that since the murderer has been sentence to prison (although still waiting for him to actually be transferred to said prison) we should just be done and over with everything? Just pack up all things related to Joey, all pictures, memories, etc and put him on a shelf and forget it?
You see, one does not simply "move on" when their child (or for me - grandchild) dies. On top of the grief from his death is the added trauma that someone that was supposed to care for him, someone that was supposed to be a husband, a son-in-law, an uncle, a brother-in-law, someone that was trained to save lives and protect others,etc beat our Joey to death.
There is no "moving on"!
There is time
There is grief
There is sorrow
There is depression
There is anxiety
There is fear
There is lack of trust
There is so much
But there is no "moving on"
As years go by his death will not be as hard to deal with as it is now but it will always be a part of his mother's life, his little brother's life, of my life, my young son's life. His death was tragic. The behavior of the murderers family appalling, and the attitudes of many mind blowing. Yes over time things will get "easier" (for a lack of better words) to deal with, but the pain will always be there and he will forever be a part of our lives.
Today I began the process of going through the case file with the amazing Nicole at the Elmore County Prosecutor's Office. She sat by my side the entire day. We talked, we got angry together, we cried together and we laughed together.
So next time you want to say "Move On" to someone that has gone through a horrific experience - please don't. It's like telling that person that what they went through doesn't matter any more.
JOSEPH WAYNE GRAHAM III WILL ALWAYS MATTER!
Be kind to one another, play with your children, hug them tight, tell them you love them and help them grow, learn and thrive!